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Positively Dealing With Negativity in Your Life
Using Affirmations
Woman Thou Art GREAT
Creative Visualization 101
Stress Freedom

& Dear LB...LB Answers Your Questions


Positively Dealing With Negativity in Your Life
 
 
 

"Human beings have the remarkable ability to turn nothing into
something. They can turn weeds into gardens and pennies into
fortunes."
 -  Jim Rohn
 
 
 
Have you ever had to deal with someone for whom absolutely everything was a reason for complaint, anxiety, negativity and/or stress? Sometimes these individuals come in the form of a family member, a friend, a loved one—or if we are particularly unfortunate, an employer or spouse. Such individuals can suck the joy and sense of well-being right out of life. They can ruin your emotional and even physical health...if you let them.
 
 
 
Negative People
 
Negative people (I call some of them the “dream stealers”) are often resentful, defensive, and unpleasant. These are toxic people. They may gloat over your misfortune or sneer at your good fortune or successes. They often make snide little remarks. Some of them even make blatantly offensive and disrespectful comments right to your face. Oh yes...they come in all shapes, sizes & "flavahs." You can recognize them by the effect they have on you and others. They are the people that you learn to withhold information from.  What kind of info? You don't tell them about dreams, plans and grand ideas. They are the ones who call you crazy for daring to dream, to create and to love. All us know or know of at least one "dream-stealer."

Some negative people may smile in your face and tear you down to others behind your back. They always give you the classic, "What? I didn't say or do anything but--" followed by some excuse or re-framing of the truth. You may believe them, but it's not because what they say makes any sense. You believe them perhaps because you love them and want to see the best in them. Deluding yourself knowingly from the truth simply causes more stress and anxiety to bubble beneath your surface. You feel a 'gnawing' and a 'nagging' ache but you may try to just shrug it off. This causes internal imbalance and it significantly detracts from your sense of well-being.
 
Other negative people in your life may actually think that they have your best interests at heart, but their negative attitude prevents them from manifesting any authentic concern or respect for you. You may recognize these individuals by the fact that they are always attempting to change and rearrange you. They never accept you just for who you are. If you are not careful with these kinds of situations you will end up always trying to please them and to get the approval that they will absolutely NEVER give you. It's pure DESPERATION in such a scenario. You become like a dog chasing your tail with these types. It's very stressful, disempowering and harmful to your physical and emotional health.
 
You may in some cases attempt to put negative people in perspective and try to ignore their comments or misdeeds. Still, they upset you.  Toxins and stress may begin to slowly build up inside of you. It may manifest as impatience with others, diminished passion, fatigue, lack of concentration, loss of creativity, ect. In an attempt to deal with the negative energy you may take up unhealthy habits such as over-eating, drug-use, avoiding exercise, drinking, smoking or other forms of escapism.

Sadly, sometimes some of the most toxic people we have to deal with are in our own families. For instance the child - parent relationship can be replete with complicated emotions. The potential "madness" with in-laws can never be under estimated. You may even be married to a toxic person or have to work
with someone who shoots negative energy your way on a consistent basis. Sometimes we get so accustomed to experiencing this negation that we don't even realize the level of stress we are suffering until we end up at the doctor's office. We must to learn to recognize the negative people and situations in our lives so that we can eliminate or at least minimize them. Our very lives depend on it.
 
Do you see how negative people can eventually cost you your life if you let them wreak havoc in your life? Negative energy can be very powerful...fortunately so can positive energy. Negation is darkness and positivity is the Light. Light will always banish darkness.  We must however, light the candle, flip the switch or do something to become aware of the darkness so that we may deal with it appropriately.
 
 
 
Check-in With Yourself
 
 
The most effective way to recognize the people and situations that inject stress and negativity into our lives is to check-in with ourselves after we encounter a particular individual or situation.  We know them by how they make us feel. We may feel anxious, irritated, drained or very stressed in their presence.  We often are not aware of how awful they make us feel until they walk away or get off the phone with us. Talking with them may actually even leave a "nasty" taste in our mouths. When we are finally away from them we may feel exhausted and need to do something to recharge our batteries in order to restore sense of balance and peace. Set your intention to begin paying attention to your internal reactions to the people in your life. Ask yourself: "How do I feel when (s)he is in my presence?"
 
We often feel the effects of our interactions with negative in the body.  The term, "pain in the neck" comes directly from the feeling within the body that some individuals or situations cause. We literally feel stiffness, aches or pains in our necks! We may get headaches, muscle spasms, upset stomachs, etc. This is why we often use another popular phrase to express how someone may effect us; "You make me sick!" Sometimes that phrase is even more true than we realize.  We may like, love or sincerely care for the negative individuals in our lives, but they often make things harder than they need to be. Over time our negatively charged interactions with toxic people can "worry us to death"--literally.
 
Many times toxic individuals are not aware of the negative effect they are having on others. They may make insensitive comments, judgments or make demands that are inappropriate, unreasonable or unfair. You may or may not be in a situation or position to call them on it. For instance, when an employer or client is difficult to deal with, we may feel heightened stress due to our inability to speak to him or her candidly. The workplace is often a very stressful environment because we are often not operating in an environment wherein we express ourselves freely.
 
Negative people and situations can steal your peace, joy, and happiness and bring you down in every way. This can and does cause sickness and disease if allowed to go on for too long. Begin to take the time to really check-in with yourself while and after dealing with certain people.  Ask yourself:
 
How do I feel when I speak with him/her?
 
Was there a helpful or useful purpose for our conversation?
 
Did he/she listen to me?
 
Am I being dealt with in a respectful way?
 
Are there any little twinges or aches in my body that I did not have
before speaking with that person?
 
Do I look forward to the next meeting, call, conversation, etc., with
this person?
 
What is the Purpose of my relationship with this person?
 
Would I be happier without him/her?
 

Check-in with yourself and if the main effect of an individual in your life is mostly negative, changes must be made. You must try to remove these people and circumstances from your life ASAP. They are killing you. That may sound harsh but if you review the information on http://www.soulutionsfordynamicliving.com/ regarding stress, you will see why unmanaged stress is such an awful aspect of our day to day lives.  If
you cannot remove the sources of negativity and stress in your life altogether or immediately, it is vital that you learn how to counter negative influences in your life with positive energy and awareness.
 
 
 
Positivity Starts With...ME
 
The best defense against negative people is to first make sure that you yourself are not one of them. Surprised? You have the greatest effect on yourself. Negativity within ourselves often makes us more sensitive to the negativity in others. Often the most irritating people in our lives are so irritating because they are reflecting things back to us that we do not care to face or deal with inside of ourselves. Sometimes we think we are looking out a window when we are actually staring in a mirror. We have to become self-aware in order to make positive changes.
 

Some of the most negative people are completely oblivious regarding the negative effect they have on those around them. Negative people may think that they are being helpful, protective, honest, caring, etc. They may have the best intentions but the effect of their actions, words and energies are not beneficial to them or those around them. It is challenging for anyone to see or admit when his or her intentions are good, but his or her effect is bad.  Intentions, however, don't mean a thing if someone is causing another person, stress, anxiety and grief. Always keep in mind what the road to hell is paved with!
 
How do you assess your effect on others? It begins with examining your overall attitude about life, work, and those around you. Here are some
key questions to ask yourself:
 
Do you hate your job?
 
Do people smile when they see you coming?
 
Can others be themselves around you?
 
Must you always be right?
 
Is there no one that understands you?
 
Does it often seem that everyone around you is wrong or less competent
than you?
 
How many compliments do you give out a day?
 
Is everyone always treating you badly?
 
Do you treat your spouse or significant other the way you want him or her to treat you---or are you waiting for him or her to "act right" FIRST?
 
Your honest answers to these probing questions may help you see that at least some of negativity that you perceive is actually emanating from you. Be encouraged. Your ability to change the negativity in your life to positivity and well being is even more powerful if a good deal of it is powered by you.  All you have to do is make a decision to change. Sounds too simple to be true doesn't it? It is true though. Make your choice and test it out. If your entire experience of life does not change after you actively see to interject positivity and dynamic energy into the world around you, you can always go back to the stress of sucking lemons and complaining about everything and everyone. It's your choice.
 
 
 
Change Your Attitude & Your World Changes With You
 
Attitude comes from inside of us and is truly EVERYTHING.  It determines how you see the world as well as how far you will go in life.  Attitude is a major determinant of altitude.  We must constantly be aware of our internal attitude and be ready to adjust it as needed.  Remember, there is no "reality."  There is only our perception; our attitude regarding the "reality" we perceive. A favorite grad school professor of mine often said, "Life is not about how far you go but how you go far." That's so true.
 

Today you are invited to a journey into the Body, Heart & Soul of you, your attitude about yourself, others and your life. You are invited to set your intention to become more aware of who you are and where you intend to focus your energy in life from this day forward. Contemplate the energetic qualities of this endeavor as well as the more hands on/concrete aspects. Combine ideas with action and you will transform your life and way of being in this world.
 
This transformation is infectious and it will bless the lives of everyone you come into contact with. Negativity will fade in others as you release it from yourself. Light attracts light. Good and kind people will appear in your life and the hopelessly nasty will move on.  You will transform your attitude, heighten our altitude and greatly increase your sense of well being.
 
 

"Success is a journey, not a destination!"
--Ben Sweetland
 
 
 
Grow Forward
 
So today I come to you with confidence in my convictions and the strength one develops by committing to a task and simply staying the course despite the obstacles and nay sayers. If you have any goals or aspirations that you hold within your Body, Heart & Spirit, I hope you will find inspiration and validation as you set your intention to gear your attitude for success on life.
 
 Whatever your goals and hopes for the future, you need to know that they are already yours. You only need to claim them. You need no one's approval. This is your life. So do not ask or wait for any human being's validation or approval. "They" will never really give it to you anyway. That's their job. Your strength is in learning the Lesson that they are being used to teach. Learn it...then quickly let it go. In this way you can take a potentially negative influence and make it positive. It's all in how you choose to see a person, thing, situation or experience. Release all negatively and resentment as those things
will only hold you back. Let it all go...and GROW forward!
 
The power is yours. It is within you and has been given to you as a gift from the Creator. You can decide to grow up and on instead of growing old and out. It's your choice. You must develop the conviction to stick to your plan and follow your bliss despite what others say and think. Remember, no human being here, as great as he or she may think they are, has created this marvelous Universe where in an instant a dream can be manifested in a goal, a goal into an active plan and a plan into a vividly blessed and sparkling Reality! Stick to your plan...be who you were sent here to be and you will reach altitudes that no one ever dared dream of.
 
 
"Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young."
 
--Henry Ford
 
 
So let us start today by choosing to be happy, encouraging a supportive human beings. We will liven up our individual experience and attract even more positive people into our lives.
 
Please say the following affirmations everyday for this month. Ckeck-in with yourself. How are you being effected by others? How are you effecting others? Recognize and congratulate yourself for making the decision to become more aware and take positive control over your own life. Watch for positive effects in your life and in the lives of everyone around you.
 

Positive Affirmations
 
I am a positive influence in the lives of everyone I touch, talk to or think about.
 
I attract positive, supportive and loving individuals into my life.
 
I define who I am in the world.
 
I am a catalyst for positive change in myself, others and the world.
 
I am positively happy about living a life full of productivity, joy, love, laughter & creativity--regardless!
 
 
 
 
 
"If one is lucky, a solitary fantasy can totally transform one million
realities."
 
- Maya Angelou
 
 
 
© SOULutions for Dynamic Living 2006





Woman Thou Art GREAT
by Lisa Bartley-Lacey, MA

"Be not afraid of greatness,
some are born great,
some achieve greatness
and others have greatness
thrust upon them."

-William Shakespeare

You are GREAT!

No matter what aspersions have been cast upon you by either yourself or by others, you were born for GREATNESS.  Greatness is within you Woman.  It is true. Deep within every woman alive is the seed of the awareness of her queenhood. In her soul every woman knows that she is infinitely more than the prime cuts of meat that popular culture attempts to dissect females into.   I know this because I live this.  As a child I was never accepted.  I was called ugly, useless, "black" & stupid.  I was the offspring of a domestically violent household.  My mother eventually escaped with my siblings and I to live on welfare and government cheese in Detroit City. 
By 15 my virginity was stolen from me by a 24 year old child rapist.  By 16 I was drinking and trying to forget myself.  By 17 I was clinically depressed.  By the age of 18 wounded by a difficult childhood and troubled teenaged years, I got pregnant with the first of my 3 children.  I was a mess...yet there was GREATNESS within that mess.

GREATNESS is within you too.

In order to be useful to you, I had to go through a process. This process was very painful. In this process I might have perished. It continues. This process is more commonly known as "life." My demise, however, though supported by this world, was not sanctioned by the Universe. By God I am still here.  You could have died before reaching and reading these words, yet you are still here. We are here! We have arrived in this moment for a reason and with a divine Purpose.

When you learn...
Teach
When you get...
Give

-Maya Angelou, Our Grandmothers

When I was just a little brown baby girl hiding and cringing in the closet listening to my mama being beaten, GREATNESS was within me. When I was just a skinny little 15 year old Black girl in Detroit City being physically threatened, emotionally annihilated and spiritually devastated, GREATNESS was within me. I was a Queen, but I did not know it yet.

When I wallowed in despair weeping as a young adult in the wake of self-destruction and negativity, GREATNESS was within me but I did not know it yet. When I cried alone as a poverty stricken unwed teenaged mother, GREATNESS was within me but I did not know it yet. As I bore the weight of being a divorced single parent of three children thumbing through my food-stamps, GREATNESS was within me but I did not know it yet. While lying up under benighted males in search of love and validation as a lost woman, GREATNESS was within me but I did not know it yet. As I walked across the stage to collect my BA then my MA degrees, thinking that they were legitimizing me, true GREATNESS was within me, I thought I knew but I did not know true GREATNESS yet.  God knew it though.  My Purpose is to proclaim the Creator's gift of GREATNESS within YOU as I reveal it within myself.

No one, no, nor no one million
ones dare deny me God, I go forth
alone, and stand as ten thousand.

-Maya Angelou, Our Grandmothers

I have suffered. You have suffered. Women have suffered uniquely in patriarchal society. With women of color, the double whammy of simultaneous sexism and racism can be particularly devastating. Let us consider the resultant GREATNESS of women who have gone through great trials and lessons. Everyone who has achieved any substantive modicum of greatness has suffered in one way or another. Our pain makes human. Overcoming our suffering through perseverance, grace, wisdom and determination exemplifies triumph over adversity. This is how we tap into the inexhaustible Source. Our suffering becomes our strength. This strength is our gift from the Creator to the rest of the world.

... All my life I have always known I was born to greatness.
-OPRAH WINFREY

It's time to reclaim your rightful inheritance. Ascend the throne beloved daughter of the most high God. Your prison is an illusion. Your smallness is a lie. God sent you here directly from Heaven.  Woman thou art loosed. Woman thou art beautiful. Woman thou art loved. Woman thou art powerful. Woman thou art safe. Woman thou art successful. Woman thou art free...

Woman thou art GREAT!


________

 

Using Affirmations to Transform Your Life


What Are Affirmations?


Let's briefly discuss what Affirmations are. Basically affirmations are stating that that you desire to be as if it already is...and it is very powerful.

What do you want? What would the perfect life look like for you? Can you imagine it? If you can imagine it, you can create it. Affirmations help you to manifest the life you desire if you know how to use them. Using them is simple. Everything in your life today was brought into being through your personal power, magnetism, thoughts, words and imaginings. You may or may not have been consciously aware of the process, but you have already created your own reality. You can re-create it too.

Years ago, Affirmations, unbeknownst to me, were destined to play a rather significant role in my life. Over a decade ago the devastation of a painful divorce, had left me feeling alone, depressed and utterly dis-empowered. I had three young children, however, who needed me to be stronger than I actually was. I was unaware of it at the time, but the Creator's hand was on my life. Through my pain, I still felt the need to become a whole, happy, successful human being and live up to my full potential.

Many powerful, talented and wise women find themselves caught between what others tell them they should be and what they really want to be. The challenge is for each woman is for her to grow into the awareness of what she already is. Affirmations are immeasurably beneficial in enhancing a woman's God given power to become all that she might be.

Many years ago, I allowed negative statements, thoughts and fears to damage my resolve. I allowed other people to tell me who I was and what I "should" do to be what they believed I ought to be. What an awful way to live when God has created us as we are and given us access to Divine Wisdom and the power to transform our lives free from popular culture's projections and the opinions of other people. When we allow ourselves to feed off of negative self-talk or aspersions cast by others, it always harms us. It negates our worth. Affirmations validate our worth. They affirm our GREATNESS.

Fortunately, I did not allow the screaming voice of negativity to wholly cancel out the true Voice. The true Voice is that of the Creator whispering and straining to be heard. When you utter positive affirmations, you echo the very Voice of the Creator. This Voice creates. Your voice creates. Affirmations inspire, motivate & excite you because as you speak them something within your body, your mind and your spirit tells you that they are as TRUE as you will allow them to be. As you state your affirmations, negative voices fade in the distance.

The power of creative visualization will sincerely help you to fulfill your greatest desires. Start today. You must want what you want enough to put your energy and intention where your mouth is, so to speak. Creative visualization is like a prayer where you not only ask the Creator for this or that, but you offer your energy to help manifest it. Your thoughts are
the raw material required to manifest your dreams.


Begin Your Affirmations Practice


To successfully begin practicing creative visualization and using affirmations, I encourage you to use the following simple yet very important questions and guidelines in planning your practice:

1.) What do I want? You may want to pray and think seriously about this before proceeding.  Be careful with what you speak or affirm in your life because you will get it. Clearly and firmly create the vision of what you want within your heart, mind and soul. Select affirmations to support your vision. Visualize. Affirm. Let go of what you want. Yes, if you really want it...let it go. This may seem somewhat contradicting but you must realize that obsessing or clinging to anything repels it. When you use affirmations you are changing your energetic patterns to attract what your want. Attraction is passive and remarkably powerful.

2.) When do I want it? Now. You must state everything you want as if you already have it right now. Set your intention. Choose an affirmation that positively states what you desire as if you already possess it. Remember, it is very important to state what you DO want and NEVER to state what you DO NOT want. For instance, say, "I am beautiful." Do not say, "I want to be beautiful." "I will be beautiful" or "I am not ugly!"

3.) Why do I want what I want? Write out the purpose of your affirmation practice. Know why you want the thing you desire. Why is it so important to you? Why should God and the Universe support your having it? It is important for the energy of your practice for you to be clear on your "why".


4.) How do I AFFIRM what I want? Engage all of your senses in your creative visualization practice.  See, feel, hear, taste and even smell the reality of having what you want in your life.  The more you engage your senses in the process the more real your affirmations
become...literally.


5.) Where will I practice? Your affirmation practice will ultimately become a part of everything you do everywhere. At first you will need to find deliberately set times and places when and where you know you will state your affirmation(s). Soon after you begin to mindfully begin to state your affirmations throughout the day, they will become a natural part of your daily experience. Your words will change. The thoughts in your mind will change.... and your life will change... As long as you do it. You create your life.


6.) When will I practice? It is good to repeat your affirmations and for 5-10 minutes at night before you go to bed, and for 5-10 minutes in the morning just after you wake up. It is optimal if you can find a space and time in the middle of your day for your practice as well. It is very good if you can mindfully say your affirmations at least to yourself all throughout your day. Saying them while driving, showering, putting on your make-up, walking your dog, exercising, etc. is good.

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7.) Who will be affected by it? In order to be successful your affirmation practice must seek to harm no one. This is of vital importance. For instance, when you visualize yourself with the man of your dreams, this must not entail stealing another woman's husband or establishing any relationship based on deceitful. Deceit, harmful intentions and selfishness negate the powerful positive energy of affirmations. Also when you visualize yourself getting a promotion or new job, it must not include someone else being fired. Compose your affirmations and create your visualization to support the optimal result and blessings for everyone.


Create Your Life


As you embark on affirming and creating your new life, you will experience the joyous and the challenging. Some things may make you laugh. Others may bring you to tears. It is natural for you to experience many emotions as all of the aspects of your life come together to increase you in wisdom, stature, and power as a woman. The most painful experiences of your life often times bring with them the gift of great wisdom.

Do not be afraid.  The development of yourself as a woman is your highest call. This call moves you out of your comfort zone. It stretches and challenges you.  Fear not. We are sisters in this process. We go through it simultaneously.  We follow the paths of those who have gone before us and we pave the way for those who follow in our footsteps. The path may get a bit rocky and winding at times, but stay with it. You are loved. You are supported.

Again, just stay with the process…especially when it seems most difficult.  The difficulty holds your greatest lesson and your greatest opportunity for growth and transcendence.


Affirm


When you use affirmations properly, you speak pure greatness into your Body, Mind, and Spirit. You are using the power that God has given you to create your own life.  Each affirmation you write out, think, and affirm within the context of a regular daily affirmation practice is an injection of physical, emotional, and spiritual “medicine” into the core of your being.


Today YOU are empowered to create the life you desire to LIVE!

 

© SOULutions for Dynamic Living 2003

 
 


Creative Visualization 101

 

CREATIVE VISUALIZATION 101:
How to Use Your God Given POWER to BE What You See

Lisa Bartley-Lacey, MA.


What do you want? What would the perfect year 2006 look like for you? Can you imagine it? If you can imagine it, you can create it through God. Creative visualization infused with the POWER of prayer, can manifest Life more ABUNDANTLY for you in 2006 and beyond.

Adding creative visualization to your prayer practice is easy. Creative visualization is simply visualizing the answers to your prayers. It consists of seeing the answers to your prayers in your mind’s eye. Creative visualization for Christians is the practice of implementing prayer, imagination, mind over matter techniques, affirmations, etc. to create Reality.

Everything in your life today was brought into being through God, your personal power, magnetism, thoughts, words and imaginings. You may or may not have been consciously aware of the process, but you have already created your own reality. You can re-create it too. God has already given you the POWER!

You can manifest the man of your dreams

by simply visualizing him into your life.


Thoughts are real. What exists, exists first in the heart, soul and mind. The entire Universe began as a thought in the mind of the God. By creating and affirming a clear picture of what you want in your mind, you can quite literally make your dreams into realities.  You possess the inherent inner power to create wealth, health, love and virtually any and everything you desire in your life. Masters of creative visualization teach that if you simply see yourself as rich, not only will you be rich, you are rich.

My Personal Triumph Via God & Using Creative Visualization

A few years ago I was trapped in a stifling higher education administration position. I had no freedom. I had stress, working-weekends, working-lunches, working-"sleeping", deadlines, multiple projects, pointlessly-long-boring-meetings and endless headaches. I suffered a micro-managing-control-freak of a supervisor that I literally allowed to stress me out so badly that I was at the doctor's office every other week---I never used to go to the doctor or get really ill.  (Stress is a killer!) As I dealt endlessly with other people’s problems and other people’s children, I was missing out on spending quality time with my own children. As a single-divorced parent who worked full time and took graduate courses, I felt there was nothing left of me or for me at the end of each day.

The further insult was that I knew that less efficient individuals with higher positions in the institution had less responsibilities but made over 3 times my salary. The extent of their responsibilities was to be big talking heads who issued directives and barked out orders. I saw how the game was played. I recognized exactly what I needed to do to play and "win". I did not, however, want to play their game. A win in that system for me was no win at all.  I wanted no part of it.  I did not want a promotion. I did not want the salary increases they dangled before me on strings (always strings).

I wanted to be promoted by God!  I made a decision to embrace the vision of freedom. I began to pray, meditate and visualize. I cast my spirit out upon the ocean that rolled royally across the view from the window in my office. I prayed to God for freedom and I saw myself FREEEEEEEEE.

I saw myself with wings! My freedom soon followed in a way that I could have never imagined.As God had it, I was able to exit without quitting or even  really losing my salary for over a year.  I was able to finish graduate school in peace and freedom.  What a sublime BLESSING!  That's when I knew without a doubt that God supported me whollly and no one nor nothing else could ever be given credit for my status, sustanance and well-being in the world.  I grew wings!  I began to fly.  And I have been flying ever since.  I LOVE my life!

The Power of Vision

Visualization is the inner manifestation of total faith being projected unto the manifest world. It is believing that God will manifest something in your life so deeply that you can just see it, feel it, touch it. Christ said that if we had the faith of a mustard seed we could tell a mountain to jump into the ocean and it would jump into the ocean. I believe that.

What does your heart desire? You can visualize yourself into being more beautiful than women like Angela Bassett, Catherine Zeta Jones or Janet Jackson. You can manifest the man of your dreams by simply visualizing him into your life. Imagine conjuring up your own personal Denzel, Clooney or Mekhi Phifer. Through the God-centered power of creative visualization you can do, have and be anything you desire.

Do you really believe that?

Praise God for giving us the POWER

to tap into that awareness and

become all that has been placed

within our hearts, minds and spirits.

As You Think...

My very first experience with the transformative power of creative visualization began about a decade ago. That is when I first read a book on basic creative visualization. As child I had been taught one of the basic tenets of the Bible; "As a (wo)man thinketh, so shall (s)he be." This book seemed to me to offer a deep study into the nature, significance and POWER of that verse.

Prayerful creative visualization, unbeknownst to me, was destined to play a rather significant role in my life. Ten years ago the devastation of a painful divorce, had left me feeling alone, depressed and utterly dis-empowered. I had three young children, however, who needed me to be stronger than I actually was. I was unaware of it at the time, but the God's hand was on my life.

Through my pain, I still felt the need to become a whole, happy, successful human being and live up to my full potential. Most women find themselves caught between what others tell them they should be and what they really want to be. The challenge is for her to grow into the awareness of what she already is.

Creative visualization is immeasurably beneficial in enhancing a woman's awareness of her inner power and beauty. No other human being knows what you are supposed to be or how you are supposed to be. Only God knows. Through God you know too. Praise God for giving us the POWER to tap into that awareness and become all that has been placed within our hearts, minds and spirits.

When we allow ourselves to feed off of

negative self-talk or aspersions cast by others,

it always harms us.


I made a decision to name my life, claim my life and change my life. With my old worn Bible and a brand new copy of book on creative visualization by my side, the journey began. "I will try this," I affirmed. Still, I struggled with inner fears. I had only a high school diploma.  I had been laid off as portrait studio manager when the store I worked in closed. My ex's words before he abandoned our family still rang with razor sharpness in my head, my heart and my soul; "You'll never make it out here without me Lisa! Ain't nobody gonna ever want you. You're Black. You're stupid AND you got three kids!"

It is worth noting here, that this practice of some people of telling a woman that she is nothing without them, is a classic ploy used by weak individuals. It is the anti-thesis of positive affirmation. It is not of God. It is of darkness and it seeks to obliterate you, your Light, your enthusiasm, creativity, and everything God has in store for you.  Turn off your ears and look to the Light when anyone tries to tell you that you are less than you are in any regard.  They are speaking for darkness and that energy will be returmed to its source.  As my mama would say, "Pay them no never-mind!"

This negation strategy is used to destroy the sensitive psyches of women who do not yet know their POWER and potential. Do not fall for it. It is always a lie. Anyone who ever directs such malevolent  statements at you, means you no good. Do not be fooled Sista. That is not love. It is negation; the opposite of affirmation. Remember also that this world may hate you, but the Creator of this world adores you. What this world casts as faults and shortcomings, God blesses as your gifts. You are a woman! You are of royal heritage. You are intelligent, creative and BRILLIANT!


I know who I am now. I chose my own way of ‘being’ in this world. I know with deft certainty that I am not here to please people. People are not ‘pleasable’ anyway. It is in their nature to find fault with everything and everyone because they can only see their own nature reflected. People project all of their issues onto other people in a painful cycle of energy exchange.  They do to us what has been done to them. They may be utterly unaware that this is what they are doing.  Some others may know full well the damage and pain that they inflict.  No matter.  You simply need to check your own intentions, ask for forgiveness when you make mistatkes, do better when you know better and go on through God in Love & Light.

Encouragae and offer Love, Light & Support to others.  Refrain from judging or tearing another down because it serves no good pupose even if the person is in err.  Tearing her or him down only succeeds in making things worse.  Encourage.  Inspire.  Exemplify.  Pray for them and see them in your Mind's Eye as strong, successful, happy & well.  Visualize the optimal outcome for everyone in your life.  This energy shall be returned to you a thousand-fold. 

Never listen to people who tear you down. They just do not know any better. I never heed what negatively or egocentrically motivated individuals tell me I "should" do. And they are constantly telling me this, one thing or the other.  They think because I don't say much that I have nothing to say.  Not so.  I just respect people's Freewill and I know thatGod is working with them and supporting them along their Path.  Unfortunately, people do not always affort us the same courtesy or consideration.  You extend it to them just the same and resist any temptation to return negative energy for negative energy.  It may seem fair but it will ultimately do you more harm than good.

Ten years ago, I allowed negative statements, criticism, thoughts and fears to damage my resolve. Oh how I suffered with this particular Lesson.  When we allow ourselves to feed off of negative self-talk or aspersions cast by others, it always harms us. It negates our worth. Affirmations are a major component of the use of prayerful creative visualization. Positive affirmations validate our worth through God.  Creative Visualization and Positive Affirmations quite literally change the vibrational patterns of your life.

God and the Universe are on your side!

Fortunately, during that difficult phase of my Path, God did not allow the screaming voice of negativity to wholly cancel out the True Voice. The true Voice is the very voice of God whispering and straining to be heard over the noise of negativity and confusion in your life.

 When you utter positive affirmations, you echo the very Voice of the Creator. This Voice creates. Your voice creates through God. As you state your affirmations, negative voices fade in the distance. Negative voices become distant echoes. Then they become silence. This is when it gets good Sista. God’s Voice becomes a blaring trumpet of the most beautiful and bold song of the validation of your worth.

Have you ever wondered how it would feel to be free of self-loathing and/or the pain of criticism from others? Christ did not come to shame us or condemn us and He would be in a rightful position to do so. He came instead to give us LIFE...and give it to us more abundantly. Choose now who you will listen to this year and for the rest of your life. Will you choose the voices that say that you are wrong, not "doing-it" right, are a failure, a disgrace, a weirdo, an under-achiever, a whore, a loser, etc., etc., etc. Or will you chose the Voice that calls you BELOVED?

Close your eyes.  Imagine God's loving arms reaching out from the heavens and embracing you tenderly.  Feel those arms around your Body, Your Mind and your Soul.  You are loved.  You are adored.

It All Starts With a Decision

Using prayerful creative visualizations began with my making a simple choice. After needlessly suffering through years of pain and negation, I finally chose to live my life optimally. I then set my intention to dramatically change my life through God, prayer and creative visualization. Whenever we decide and set our intentions in this way, all the powers of the Universe and all the angels in Heaven converge to support us. God and the Universe are on your side! It does not matter who or what tries to stand against you. I made the choice to use prayer and creative visualization to become my optimal self. That was the first critical step in the process.


Are you sick and tired of

being sick and tired yet?

When you have had enough of

dissatisfaction, unhappiness and

living below your potential,

you will be ready to

use creative visualization.

Creative Visualization can be done with a friend or a group if that appeals to you. When I first started using creative visualization, working with a friend just felt right for me. This particular friend had also experienced a very painful trauma in her life. So we decided that we would read and practice creative visualization together. Making this choice was a major turning point in both our lives. It is not necessary to practice creative visualization with a friend. Due to the fact that creative visualization requires discipline, the buddy system is just a good way to help beginners stay motivated and focused.

If you have positive people in your life who share your desire to live wholly through God, practicing creative visualization with them can be a truly profound experience. Your lives will change. A good friend can often be the source of great healing and support in one's life. If you do not have this type of support, that is also just fine. You always have REAL support. You have yorself. You have God. You have all you need to succeed.

It has been said that when the student is ready the teacher arrives. Prayerful creative visualization arrived as a tool and a gift from God for my friend and me when we were ready to see life in a different way. My friend gravitated to the idea of using creative visualization because she wanted to change her life as much as I did. She was sick and tired of suffering. She wanted to enjoy her life. Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired yet? When you have had enough of dissatisfaction, unhappiness and living below your potential, you will be ready to use prayerful creative visualization.

Somehow, however, by divine grace,

we knew that drinking, partying and

playing with 'playahs' was never going

to assuage the deep feeling of

dissatisfaction we had with life.

So we decided to get real...

and get what we really wanted out of life.

 

If you are not truly tired of the way things are, you will pray a half-hearted little prayer, play with the idea of creative visualization for a time, leave it behind and go on with things as they have always been. In so doing, you will still be creating your own reality. If that is what you create, be at peace with it. Admit it. That is ultimately what you want. If you are ready, creative visualization will be just the tool you have been waiting to find. You will take it seriously.  You will commit. You will pray and practice creative visualization on a daily basis. Your life will change.

Creative visualization was the answer to a particular prayer that up until the time we made our choice, neither my friend nor I had enough sense to pray. The previous 2 years of my friend's life had left her depressed, insecure, at least 60 pounds over the weight that she desired for herself and unable to sustain any kind of meaningful relationship with a desirable man. I was an in an equally disenfranchised emotional and spiritual state. What a pair! We were two depressed, rejected, dejected women. We both felt thoroughly unloved and unlovable. We wanted more though. We all do. God had more in store for us. God has more in store for you too.

Before mindfully using the POWER of prayer combined with creative visualization, my friend and I could not clearly see the enormous presence of love, Light and abundance that permeated through our lives. Somehow, however, by divine grace, we knew that drinking, partying and playing with 'playahs' was never going to assuage the deep feelings of dissatisfaction we had with our lives in general. So we decided to get real...and get what we really wanted out of life. Together we prayed and set our intentions to use creative visualization and affirmations to transform our lives.

Her body had been miraculously

transformed by God into the image

she created in her visualizations.


God Is Showing Me the Way Now

"Everyday in every way I am getting better and better and better!" and "I am beautiful and worthy of abundance and love in my life now," are the affirmations that my friend was drawn to. My affirmations were, "Everything I need is already within me." and "God is showing me the way now."

I must confess that when I first began saying these affirmations and visualizing myself as strong, capable and able, I laughed. I could not utter the words with any sense of confidence or authority. When I first began, I did not truly believe that I had what it took to succeed. The statement sounded utterly false as it stumbled across my tongue...but I said it anyway. I taped it up on note cards in my bathroom and bedroom. I carried it on a card in my wallet. I prayed and practiced my visualizations and repeated my affirmations everyday. So did my friend.

The POWER of prayer and creative visualization works! Today I can sincerely report to you that creative visualization has helped me to create a "new Lisa"! My friend now owns her own POWER. She lives optimally Body, Mind and Spirit. By connecting with God and becoming aware of her love for herself she has attracted the love and appreciation of others into her life. My friend has been married now for about 5 years to a man who loves her unconditionally. I remember how tears filled up in our eyes when we realized that she had fully attained her goals. Her body had been miraculously transformed by God into the image she created in her visualizations. With creative visualization you often receive added blessings. My friend gave birth to a beautiful baby boy last year.

We pray for direction.

We visualize this endeavor expanding

and attracting more dynamic women

who want to transform their lives and

change the world for the better.

 

Today my Master's degree in Holistic Counseling has allowed me to start building my own practice and work with several powerful and dynamic individuals. My continuing dream and expanding vision is to empower other women. I have facilitated empowerment, creativity and stress reduction workshops. I also have designed workshops and seminars to help individuals develop the skills to advance and develop themselves professionally. I have made my services available world wide for one on one advising via e-mail and telephone sessions. I even have the honor of being the co-editor of a truly wonderful book/project entitled 100 Words of Wisdom for Women: A-31-Day Exercise in Empowerment.

I have met and work with some truly phenomenal people. We are poised to empower women all over the country and abroad through God and the POWER of networking. Prayerful creative visualization is an integral component of what we are doing to build this world-wide vision. We visualize this endeavor expanding and attracting more dynamic women who want to transform their lives and change the world for the better.

We see women everywhere, reading our book and websites, connecting with one another through the POWER of God, Love, Light, and Sisterhood across the world. We see it! We see you joining with us and helping women everywhere to see the vision and claim their GREATNESS through God.

Start Today!

The power of prayer and creative visualization will sincerely help you to fulfill your greatest desires. Start today. You must want what you want enough to put your energy and intention where your mouth is, so to speak. Creative visualization is like a prayer where you not only ask the God for this or that, but you offer your energy to help manifest it. Your thoughts, prayers and words are the raw material required to manifest your dreams.

 

Trust God and God’s laws of the Universe

to manifest your wildest dreams, hopes and desires.

Make a decision.

Affirm the life you desire.

Stay with your intention.

 


By practicing creative visualization, you change your vibrations and your energy. The power of creative visualization is based on the fact that like attracts like. It is in line with the scripture that tells us we reap what we sow. We receive what we visualize. When you project your energy into thoughts of what you desire, you alter your vibrations. Remember, through God, all things work together for your ultimate good. You open yourself through your intention to receive God’s blessings. You literally become a magnet attracting everything you desire. Thought is energy. You become and/or manifest what you think about. Remember you get back what you put out into the world, good, bad or otherwise. With just a positive shift in perception you can change your whole life. Affirmations can help you to shift your perception.

Successful use of prayerful creative visualization is very simple but it is not easy. You must practice discipline to use creative visualization successfully. The discipline needed is simply the ability to stick with your practice until you achieve your desired result. You must pray, visualize, affirm and let go of your attachment to the object of your desire. Trust God and God’s laws of the Universe to manifest your wildest dreams, hopes and desires. Make a decision. Affirm the life you desire. Stay with your intention.

How to Begin

To successfully begin practicing prayerful creative visualization I encourage you to use the following simple yet very important questions and guidelines in planning your practice:

1.) What do I want God to do in my life?
Pray and think seriously about this question before preceding. Be careful about what you pray for and creatively visualize because you will get it. Clearly and firmly create the vision of what you within your heart, mind and soul. Select affirmations to support your vision. Review your life. Visualize. Affirm. Let go of what you want. Yes, if you really want it...let it go. This may seem somewhat incongruous but you must realize that obsessing or clinging to anything repels it. Creative visualization is not a seek and conquer mission. You are changing your energetic patterns to attract what your want. Attraction, is passive and remarkably powerful.

2.) When do I want it?
Now. You must state everything you want as if you already have it right now. Set your intention. Choose an affirmation that positively states what you desire as if you already possess it. Remember, it is very important to state what you DO want and NEVER to state what you DO NOT want. For instance, say "I am beautiful." Do not say, "I want to be beautiful." or "I am not ugly!"

3.) Why do I want what I want?
Write out the purpose of your creative visualization and affirmation practice. Know why you want the thing you desire. Why is it so important to you? Why should God and Universe support your having it? Pray for revelation on these things. Does what you want go against what God has stated over your life? Is what you want worth separation form God? Will what you want help someone else...will it serve the world? It is important for the energy of your practice for you to be clear on your "why".

4.) How do I visualize?
Engage all of your senses in your creative visualization practice. See, feel, hear, taste and even smell the reality of having what you want in your life. The more you engage your senses in the process the more real your visualizations become...literally.

5.) Where will I practice?
Your practice will ultimately become a part of everything you do everywhere. At first you will need to find a quiet place where you will have at least 10 minutes everyday to pray, visualize and state your affirmation(s). You may want to play some soft instrumental piece of music, light candles, burn incense...whatever you find relaxing and pleasant. Sometimes you will be able to really get into it. Sometimes you will need to keep it simple. As long as you do it. Just create your own space.

6.) When will I practice?
It is good to repeat your affirmations and replay your visualization in your mind for 5-10 minutes at night before you go to bed, and for 5-10 minutes in the morning just after you wake up. It is optimal if you can find a space and time in the middle of your day for your practice as well. It is very good if you can mindfully say your affirmations at least to yourself all throughout your day. Saying them while driving, showering, putting on your make-up, walking your dog, exercise, etc. is good..

7.) Who will be effected by it?
In order to be successful your visualization must seek to harm no one. This is of vital importance. For instance, when you visualize yourself with the man of your dreams, this must not entail stealing another woman's husband. When you visualize yourself getting a promotion or new job, it must not include someone else's being fired. Compose your affirmations and create your visualization to support the optimal result and blessings for everyone.

 

Here are Dynamic Affirmations to help you on your way in 2006:

 

FREEDOM is mine!

I attract only LOVE & LIGHT into my life now.

This planet is enveloped in God's Love & PEACE.

My loved ones are protected by God ALWAYS and in ALL ways.

ABUNDANCE abounds in every aspect of my life.

I am an instrument of LIGHT.

The Creator directs my Path.

Everything I need to succeed is within me.


Your Very Own Personal Affirmation Prescription

I offer a Personal Affirmation Prescription service for those who intend to begin with a strong intention backed by powerful affirmations to begin the transformation process in their lives. Write out a short paragraph or two on what you want to manifest through God in your life.

Please express your fears, your desire and what is going on in your life right now. I will l take what you share with me and evaluate it to prescribe a customized list of affirmations for the coming year. You will receive 9 personal affirmations to energize, visualize and materialize your best year ever. Take your Personal Affirmation Prescription, pray daily and use it as prescribed. Your life will change!  My fee to prescribe and e-mail your Personal Affrimation prescrition to you via e-mail is $29.95.

For more information on ordering your Affirmation Prescription, contact me at LBLacey@SOULutionsforDynamicLiving.net with subject heading [Affirmation Prescription]

Makes the perfect New Years gift for friends and loved ones who you know are ready to thrive in 2006! A personalized framed Personal Affirmation Prescription printed on beautiful paper and ready to present as a gift is $29.95 plus $2.00 for shipping and handling.

 

Everything in our lives is working through God's grace for the ultimate good of ALL.

 


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